Many hurting wives are not sure if what is happening to them is abuse. Are you one of them? Do you wonder if what you are enduring is bad enough to qualify for that label? Maybe you suspect something might be “off,” but you wonder: “Is it me? Is it my fault? Maybe if I was a better wife, or more submissive to my husband, he would not be so angry at me all the time. Maybe he has no choice but to reprimand me?” And yet, you recoil when you think about how cruelly you have been treated and desperately want to ask someone, “Is this normal?”