The day my mother turned and corrected me for this very statement, she said, “I hate it when women say that. It’s never to build anyone up but themselves. You are just as much a woman as anybody else. You don’t have to try to make it sound special. It is.”
She nailed it.
When we say we’re not like other women, we’re saying, “Look at me! I’m not like other girls! I’m [smarter, stronger, more reasonable, more logical, etc.]. This is exactly why I don’t do friendship with other women.” It’s become an acceptable way to set ourselves apart from the crowd.
Ironically, in doing so, we’re usually shooting ourselves in the foot. This way to set ourselves apart from the pettiness of other women is inherently petty (Proverbs 6:17).